Lots and Lots of Decisions

Ever had that big decision to make? I don't mean silly shit. Some examples of what I do not mean: "Should I talk to this girl/guy/whatever floats your flippin' boat?", "Should I buy this something I really don't even need in the first place?", or "What am I going to do Friday night?" These questions may be very serious to you, but that is not quite what I am going for here.

What I really mean is those decisions that will change just about everything. You know the ones that will decide what/where/who you are. I write about these choice because it seems like everyone around me has had quite a few lately. I just wanted to discuss two decisions I've encountered over the past few days.

"What I am going to do with my life?" - Probably my personal favorite. It is such a large question. That makes it almost impossible to answer no matter who or where you are in your life. We all get a little disillusioned or directionless sometimes. I will say with some confidence that it will pass. When it does, try to make some much smaller questions. Hopefully, they will be a little bit easier to answer....

Or not...

"What do I do when I hit..*insert mass life transition here*?" - This one comes up a lot. Graduating high school or college, entering or leaving some form of serious commitment, blah blah blah. I could list all of these for a while. Expect your life to stay the same forever? Everyone has to admit that this is a little boring. Changes are a little inevitable. Instead of hiding from big changes, make them your opportunity. Follow your curiosity, discover a passion, and live a purpose-driven lifestyle. Have a vision for the future and embrace it. It doesn't make much sense to hide from it. Then, you are manipulated by the future and not the other way around.


Funnier thing about making decisions, I do not know many people who actually make them all the same way. Personally, I jump with my first instinct. However, I only do this when I can change my mind. Yep, I am fickle. Another person I know, likes to wait and consider all options then make a decision and stick with it. Some people like pro/con lists. Others, moan and groan over whatever it is, while not actually even considering their choices. (This may be this least helpful thing of all time by the way)


Consider, consider, consider, then follow this: “Do what you feel in your heart to be right, for you'll be criticized anyway. You'll be damned if you do and damned if you don't.”
Eleanor Roosevelt
I feel like she left out you will criticize yourself. You can only do your best if it turns out wrong...fine. Make it experience and not a dwelling mistake.
Mah
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